Sir Panda
Sir-Panda (he/him) is a polyamorous Dominant living in the Kansas City metro area. He has been a kink educator since he began teaching consent and BDSM basics at Seattle’s Center for Sex Positive Culture (CSPC) in 2011. Today he especially focuses on the mental and relationship aspects of kink, drawing on over 17 years of experience and a passion for research. Sir Panda has taught for Leather Reign, the Kink Center, Pragmatic Kink, Wicked Grounds, and the Venusian Society. He has served in various community roles over the years including event planner, party host, house top, support group facilitator, and Program Lead for KinkFest 2023. Sir Panda is a lifestyle coach, a consent advocate, a Mental Health First Aider, and a member of the Social Psychology Network.
All Sessions by Sir Panda
Hearts on Fire: Handling New Relationship Energy Without Getting Burned
New Relationship Energy (NRE) describes the thrilling emotions and infatuation experienced early in romantic bonds. Symptoms can include obsession, heightened attention, and idealization of partners. We can feel euphoric and super-charged. But NRE comes with its own perils. We can rush into commitments too fast, ignore red flags, neglect existing relationships, and experience Dominant or submissive frenzy. This class will examine what NRE is, its biological origins, common mistakes while in NRE, special considerations for BDSM and polyamorous relationships, and approaches to evolve from infatuation to lasting, authentic relationships.
Shattered Bonds: Managing BDSM Breakups
Ending a kinky relationship can be profoundly disorienting. We might have come to rely on a D/s dynamic to organize and give meaning to our lives, and now that structure is shattered. We can struggle to define ourselves without our roles or dynamics. The fallout can affect our friends and other partners, and even alter how we are perceived in the larger kink community. Let’s tackle the unique impacts of the breakup of a kinky relationship. We’ll examine the rise and fall of a relationship, how to decide if it's not working out, how to approach the decision to break up, and how to deal with someone breaking up with you. We’ll also cover ways to craft the beginning of a relationship to make a possible ending more manageable. This class is for anyone who has struggled with the severing of BDSM ties, or who wants to be prepared to handle the end of a kinky relationship with less hurt, hassle, and heartache.